Jeff, they boycotted your mom's funeral, how awful, why did they do that? Also, you handled them well on the phone. I was inactive for a year and a half before any elder called to invite me to the memorial! It's funny, either they stalk you or they forget about you until number crunching time for their memorial figures. You did great though.
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Well, I got the dreaded call from the elder's tonight....
by AK - Jeff ini just returned from 18 holes of golf as the phone rang.. caller; hi jeff, this is bruce elder, how are you doing?.
me; hello bruce.
bruce; well [very nervous sounding voice now], i have kevin holierthanthou on the other line.
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Family Funeral
by jws inmy uncle died this morning.
it wasn't so much of a surprise.
he's past 80, has been in a nursing home the past few months, and has lost most of his memory, even forgetting who his wife was at times.
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jws, I'm really sorry for your loss. Your dad's decision doesn't surprise me. When my grandfather died, I sat in the lobby of the funeral home with my super elder uncle and my 2 JW aunts while the rest of my family were inside during the 'religous' ceremony. My uncle said it would be an act of interfaith if I went in and a disfellowshipping offense. Unfortunately, I believed him. It's one of my biggest regrets. It didn't feel right at the time. I wanted to be in there for my grandfather. I was grieving too. Family and close friends saw us in the lobby and kept asking, 'Why aren't you coming in?' I am amazed by the arrogance of the org. Isn't it ironic that they boast of their love when they don't seem to know the meaning of the word. It's a very harsh and cold religion we left behind. Sorry again for your loss, God Bless - V Sky.
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Hi
by UNCLEAR inthis obviously is my first post, i actually feel like i may be sick but i felt compelled to post.
only if to just say hello.. my life has been anything but boring, pioneered for years, brought several family members into "the truth", and find myself unable to have studies anylonger because i feel unsure about the stand i have taken all these years.. i was previously married, my husband left the organization for various reason, we divorced and i recently remarried another brother, he is a wonderful man and husband, i care for him deeply we and had been friends for 15 years.
i also have a son from my first marriage who is 4, he is the love of my life, recently my son had an opertion that could require a blook transfusion and to be honest i could never deny him that.
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Welcome to the board! It took courage to post and talk about how you really feel. I think you'll leave the org when you're ready, not a minute before. I look back now and I wonder why the hec it took me so long to leave. (I read Crisis of Conscience in 2001, I knew it wasn't 'the truth' but it still took me 2 more years to stop going to meetings all together) I know that fear kept me in. Who in their right mind wants to lose their family and the only 'friends' they've ever known? Who wants to leave their comfort zone when the unknown is so uncertain? And I thought leaving the org would be the same as leaving God and I didn't want to do that. Well I'm a Christian now and the cool thing is, I don't have all the answers, there are things I don't understand and that's just fine. I love this forum and the people on it even though we don't always agree and that's okay too. As far as who has the ultimate truth? Jesus does and he loves you. Hang in there - V Sky.
Looking Glass - my heart goes out to you about your gran.
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ANGRY WANGRY!!
by lowden inhow have you dealt, or how are you dealing with the anger, frustration and rightful indignation that you may feel towards the wts or even god for the way it so negatively impacted on your life?
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It takes time. As you can see you're not alone. For about 6 months I was pissed off at God, the WTS and all religions. I was angry at my mom for raising me a JW, was furious with myself for believing it as long as I did. But now, at the end of the day, I'm so grateful to be free, talk about anger - we could still be trapped there, I knew so many angry JWs who hated their life and didn't know why. This forum, these great people who post here, helped me so much to move on with my life. Venting to people who get it and writing down what I felt in a journal really helped. I also became a Christian and prayer gives me peace and joy. I read a quote about a man who endured abuse at the hands of his father and it applies to us: "Once a bad thing has happened to you, you can be completely ashamed of it and it can destroy you, or you can take the power out of it by using it as a teaching tool to help others." You can turn that anger into something good. - God Bless, V-Sky
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The Best Revenge...
by CountryGuy inis living a good life..... i'm not sure who said it, but is it ever so true.
the jws think that once we leave the "protection" of the wts, we are doomed to wander through life aimlessly and without purpose.
and, maybe i did that for a little while.. but, i have been on a mission to take my life back from those rotten sobs.
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Good for you! You took your life back, just let your light shine and your former 'friends' may wonder, what's your secret?
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upstate NewYork, anyone?
by annalice inhey everyone .
just wondering , anyone here from upstate new york?
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Lived in Millbrook, New York, it's near Poughkeepsie. I absolutely loved the Hudson Valley, would have stayed but it was too far away from family. Where are you from?
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"Baby, I think its time we move in 2gethor" HELP!!!!!
by stillAwitness inmy boyfriend and i are gettin pretty serious.
before we met he was never in a committed relationship and believed marriage was just a piece of paper that helped during tax season.
then he meets me and suddenly i catch him online looking at rings.
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Please don't move in with him! Get to really know him first as you finish school, if it's true love, he'll still be there, don't let anyone rush you into anything. - All the best!
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I'm back!!!!
by RichieRich inhello again from sunny north carolina!!!.
our state lotto started today, and i won 15 dollars, and only bought 1 $1 card.
so whoop whoop for gambling.. i was in miami florida last week for the photoshop world conference, but i also got to tour the everglades, where i took some beautiful pictures.
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Richie, you are fantastic! We missed you. That bit about the child molesters being re-appointed and their records being destroyed was nauseating, thanks for the info, you have guts and courage. God Bless, V-Sky
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I'm back!!!!
by RichieRich inhello again from sunny north carolina!!!.
our state lotto started today, and i won 15 dollars, and only bought 1 $1 card.
so whoop whoop for gambling.. i was in miami florida last week for the photoshop world conference, but i also got to tour the everglades, where i took some beautiful pictures.
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dudeeee your killin me. welcome back and i must say ..... yes i know its been said..... ballz of steel dude
MARRIAGE REQUESTS: to help keep Simon's server from crashing due to the weight of my PM inbox, lets forward all marriage proposals and naked pictures to richardivey thethird @ yahoo .com
now thats damn funny. hahahahhahhaha
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I'm new here.
by The inhey everyone, as the subject might sugest... im new here!
they say first impressions last and i hope i make.
this a good one.. .
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welcome!